Depth Perception: Seeing the True Value in Professional Relationships
Let’s talk about a critical yet often overlooked aspect of leadership: the art of cultivating deep relationships. And no, I'm not suggesting we all start holding hands and singing "Kumbaya" at the next board meeting (though that might make for an interesting ice breaker).
Shallow Waters
In our fast-paced, hyper-connected world, it's easy to fall into the trap of "network breadth over depth." We collect LinkedIn connections like they're Pokémon, dash from one power lunch to another, and pride ourselves on knowing "everyone who's anyone." But here's a hard truth: if your relationships are as deep as a kiddie pool, you're missing out on the real power play.
Diving Deep
Think of deep relationships as your personal offshore oil reserves. They're not immediately visible, take time and effort to develop, but boy, do they pay off when you strike gold. Here's why depth matters:
- Crisis Navigation: When the proverbial hits the fan, it's not your 500+ LinkedIn connections who'll have your back. It's the handful of people who know the real you, beyond the polished LinkedIn profile.
- Authentic Feedback: Yes, Karen from HR gives great feedback, but is it really the unfiltered truth you need to hear? Deep relationships provide a mirror that doesn't just reflect what you want to see.
- Innovation Incubator: True breakthroughs happen when ideas collide in an environment of trust. Shallow relationships produce shallow ideas. Depth breeds innovation.
- The Loyalty Factor: In a world where job-hopping is the norm, deep relationships create a loyalty that no compensation package can buy.
Quality vs. Quantity
Now, I can hear the objections already: "But Kristin, I barely have time to eat lunch, let alone cultivate deep relationships!" Fear not, my time-strapped sisters. Here's your action plan:
- Audit Your Relationship Portfolio: Just like you'd review your stock portfolio, take a hard look at your relationships. Which ones are penny stocks, and which are blue-chip investments?
- The 80/20 Rule of Relationships: Spend 80% of your relationship-building energy on the 20% of connections that truly matter. Sorry, golf buddy you see once a year – you're in the 80%.
- Vulnerability is the New Power Move: Showing a chink in your armor isn't weakness; it's the fast track to deeper connections. Try it. It's terrifying in the best way possible.
- Create Depth Rituals: Schedule regular check-ins with your core circle. And no, liking their Instagram post does not count.
- The Art of Deep Listening: Next time you're in a conversation, try this radical move: actually listen. Don't just wait for your turn to speak. You might be surprised at what you hear.
The ROI of Depth
Investing in deep relationships isn't just good for the soul; it's good for business. Deep relationships lead to better collaboration, more honest communication, and a support network that can weather any storm.
Remember, at the end of the day, business is about people. And people crave depth, even if they're afraid to admit it. So, the next time you're tempted to play the surface-level networking game, ask yourself: am I building a network, or am I building relationships that matter?
Now, if you'll excuse me, I have a deep, meaningful conversation to have with my coffee mug. It's been neglected lately, and relationships take work, you know.
Dynamic Exercise:
Think of one professional relationship you'd like to deepen. What's one step you can take this week to add depth to that connection? (Hint: If it involves a PowerPoint presentation, you're doing it wrong.)
Soul Fuel:
"The most important things are the hardest to say, because words diminish them." - Stephen King
...just for fun...
What kind of ship has two mates but no captain? A relationship!
All My Best,
Kristin
